This post has been revisited, reviewed and revamped.
So you wanna know if this guy, a guy, any guy is interested in you.? There are ways that you can tell, sometimes if a DUDE is into you. Well here are some clues that may help you on your quest. Now i’ll be the first to admit, GUYS are mysterious little creatures of life, if some of these seems odd, blame mother nature.
10. He babbles on when he talks to you.
–Ok look, we babble on and on about things and here’s why. We babble for two reason; 1. Silence is death. There is nothing worst than for a guy to finish talking and the girl is completely silent. 2. In an attempt to connect with you on some level, will continue to babble on, in hopes that something we say triggers a response or a an interest. Granted some of us don’t know when to STOP(sorry they don’t make a pill for that). Just be patient and know, something important is coming..
Note: When we get nervous, we normally get sweaty hands, clammy skin, aka the works.
9. There are long pauses between his comments.
–Guys often think way to hard about things, esp when it comes to women. Unsure of how to act or approach we sometime take long pauses to calculate the next move. Now a smooth guy will be two steps ahead of the girl and wont need to calculate as much, unless thrown a curve ball.
8. He tries some how to relate, to you in many ways.
– For there to be any connection there’s gotta be common ground somewhere. More so than often guys will share things with you..Interest, experiences, pet peeves etc. He’s setting up compatibility, Letting you know you guys could be a match. It depends on the dating attraction of the guy; If he like dating someone opposite of him or if he likes dating someone just like him.
7. He digs for untypical information.
Sometimes guys won’t BS with the same old conversation or some guys try to fish for info. Honestly some guys are less concerned with the mundane aspects of your life and they are more interested in what makes you YOU and more importantly different from the 3 girls standing behind you.
Note: Stay slightly guarded, there are some freaks(stalkers in training out there) but if you get asked something completely different, don’t be taken completely off your feet.
6. If you catch him always smiling at you-Constantly
– Ok, I’ll be the first to admit, I’ll send a smile in a hearbeat. A smile is free, quick, subtle and it doesn’t require me opening my mouth. A smile from a guy usually indicated some kind of approval. A smile is easily one of the bes self-esteem weapons out there.
5. If a guy, admits something slightly embarrassing or unknown to you willing.(sometimes combined with #8)
Example. Some guys will share stories, or oddities about them, to break-ice, or show that they are “real”. ‘I had asthma when I was younger” ” I failed that class too”. Our ego are always in check for us to admit these things are a big deal sometimes.
4. If makes fun of you in a harmless way, especially if he makes you laugh.
– Okay if a guy starts cracking jokes about something you said or did, then he’s feeling comfortable with you and being around you somewhat. We normally hope that be making you laugh or smile, that we will win some affection/approval points.
3. If he invites you to a social gathering, with his good friends.
–Ok listen up, an invite from a guy is a very good indication that he is interested in you, at least physically and perhaps in your personality as well. See if a guy is willing to invite you somewhere, then he’s not ashamed to be seen with you, or even perhaps he wants to show you off. See he knows, like YOU know, like I know that people talk. Just to be seen with someone can cause all sorts of assumptions to arise. Finally, there a good chance that he’s interested in your personality. Depending on the intimacy of the event, he’s go to be around you and converse with you, so in meaning, he thinks he can do that with you.
Note:A party or event, in which he doesn’t know 75% of the people personally, TRULY doesn’t count. This invitation was more likely, to avoid going alone, or he just being nice.
2. Gives you an uncommon way of contact him.
This needs to be unique in order for it to count. That means he really wants to talk to you, or have some type of interaction with you. In his eyes, theres something about you, that he wants to interact with you again. If could be that you were funny, witty, or bluntly truthful, whatever is was, he wants more of it, and my advice is milk it for what it’s worth.
Good Example: Phone Number, email, job or work location.
Ambiguous Example: AIM (everyone is on AIM, I mean everyone)
Bad Example: Myspace, Facebook
1. He complements you at odds times, in various places.
Note. A steady flow of complements, is usually a good indication. Gauge the guys personality first though. If he’s generally overnice or complements everyone, then, look for other clues. Also you might want to gauge the degree of the complement, while Pretty, Beautiful, and Gorgeous are similar, they mean completely different things. We stick the the basics, flattery. Yes it’s true we use complements to win over the ladies.. SUE US.. Now do we really mean them.. that’s another post in it self.
In closing…There are several degrees of ” IN TO YOU” so beware. It could be a crush, it could be serious, it could be true love at first sight. But there is also the other side and unfortunately it could be the complete opposite; with hopes of one way to panty-ville. Just be careful and sometimes it doesnt hurt to follow those instincts.
Now if someone would only post 10 ways to tell if a girl is into you.
Updated- 3/27/08
If you the guy is into you, or you already have him now. Maybe you should check out my latest post; 7 ways to keep your guy.
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Justin… I am not sure if I can give you 10 ways, but I can say from my own self that the biggest way to know a girl is into you is communication. She wants to talk to you, with you. She wants to know everything about you. She makes time for you, maybe overly so. If she goes so far as to rearrange her schedule for you, you know you’re in! She might call you “just because”… ugh.. even I can’t stomach that one!
Girls are forever trying to figure the guy out, always trying to read between the lines. We analyze everything said, done, to see what it “really” means. We are terrible, I know, but we are always trying to keep ahead of the guy and plan our next move. This overkill is due to the fact that we really will never be able to figure you out!
Maybe it’s because we can’t see the forest for the trees, we think that you are more complicated than you are. With most men, what you see is what you get… and we, well, just don’t get it!
Different girls, different approach. I’ll just send a drink over/wink. Done. message across.
Justin.. I’ll admit I do 7/10 of these things.. LOL. Stop telling our secerts. I’m telling.
Great post!! Very cool.
Here are some ways I think girls tend to show guys they’re into them…(they tend to be similar with your list, as far as I can say)…
- They smile a lot around the guy
- They laugh at all/most of his jokes
- They want him to meet her good friends/all hang out together
- They ask unusual questions/give unusual info
- They might touch their hair a lot…(a weird nervous reaction?)
- She talks a lot to him/babbles
Those are some I could think of right now….haha they all seem to be the same as yours, Justin…but I think guys and girls really aren’t all that different, usually, when it comes to attraction and how to deal with it.
-how to know he is that into you
-ells you everything theres to know about him
-Plan the future together
-Puts you First
-Tells everyone about(EVERYONE)
-Shares the highs and lows with you
-Picked out baby names and how many kids you are going to have….
l guess thats jst about it you will know when you are the perfect match trust me he will accept it and the whole company will know
love the way you give advice..Thnks it really helps!
Bern thanks for stopping by the blog dude..
I try my best..
10 ways to tell if a girl is into you:
10) She’s talking to you- and just you.
She does any combination of 10 and 9 while touching her hair. Hair is a big thing for us, if we’re touching, we’re definitely trying to attract a man. Probably you.
9) She’s looking at you- and just you. If she’s interested, she won’t be visually working the room.
7) She’s laughing/smiling a lot. Deep down, you know you’re not that funny. She knows too, but she likes you, so it doesn’t matter.
6) She offers to buy you a drink. Take it. She likes you!
5) She tries to find common ground.
4) She rambles. Naturally, she’s a little nervous around a guy she likes.
3) You get to meet anyone she knows well, best friend, co-worker, whatever. Men may talk more, but women can be downright vicious, so she won’t risk being seen with someone without potential.
2) You are invited to her place where a bunch of her friends will be, for any reason, BBQ, Super Bowl party, whatever. Our homes are our sanctuaries, and we don’t just let anyone in.
1) You meet anyone in her family. If she brings you in front of these folks, her toughest critics, you must be something special.
Awesome blog, btw.
Thanks for visting the blog LA cowgirl,
More importantly thanks for posting the 10 ways to tell a girl is into you.. LOL. Nice list.
justin
okay so another question the guy im talking to okay he is a few years older then i am. Well, when he talk to me he speaks shortly. In small answers like ” Yea,” or sometimes he speaks in three word sentences. Until you get him on a subject that he likes then he like never shuts up. These are the nice time. He shows all the signs that you say, A guy will show if he likes a girls. As in he smiles at me all the time an he Aims all the time, but how will i know for sure. That my “play” is going all right?
hmmm 5 ways…
well first of all we are also a mystery so don’t expect it to be easy! there are all different types of girls out there.
1) the Look – if a girl is looking at you then looks away and back again and so it goes on. It means they are almost sizing you up. Sometimes we will see something we really like
2) The questions – if she is genuinly interested in you she will ask questions. A LOT of questions about anything. about your life or even a topic that shes not exactly into.
3) The glaze – thats right i told you we were strange. We will completely ignore you just because of something we read in a magazine says that to get the guy you want there has to be an air of mystery about you. Let yourself be chased.
4) the laugh- we will laugh at the jokes noone else finds funny. you ask why? to impress you. Girls want to show guys they have a personality.
5) feeling the need- this is the most important one. If we like you we will feel the need to….
*bring up your name in random conversations
*sit in a spot at school where we can see the back of your head
*make an effort with your mates
*to be loved
*to show love
great blog
okay, so my “guy” friend marty does all of those things, but when he’s with his friends he acts like a jerk to me! is that normal ‘cuz it makes me feel bad:(
AND WE”RE JUST FRIENDS!sigh
Does he like me